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Culture Shock! 14 Posts On Coping With Uncomfortable Cultural Changes
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Culture Shock! 14 Posts On Coping With Uncomfortable Cultural Changes

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Culture Shock! 14 Posts On Coping With Uncomfortable Cultural Changes
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Anyone who travels, studies or lives abroad experiences uncomfortable cultural surprises if not shocks. Actually, you can experience these discomforts moving from one town to another or one job to another as you compare and contrast your former life to your life now. You can also experience cultural shocks by staying put, as the environment around you changes, as the people you used to associate with move on, as those who used to be in charge grow old, retire, move away or die off, or newcomers come in and take over. Change is a part of life, for good and ill.

This graphic explains how humans adjust to these changes, or not. It’s easy to get stuck in one stage, “uncertainty and doubt,” decide that the shocks are too great. This may require you to make a change for yourself.

My wife, sons, and I were fortunate in our years abroad to adapt and accept what were initially uncomfortable situations, cultural differences, and barriers.

In the following articles, my wife and I describe what were the biggest cultural shocks we experienced while living in Turkey and the United Arab Emirates.

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    Experiencing Culture Shock, Offensive Questions from Both Sides of the Global Divide
    Globalization challenges stereotypes and creates culture shocks. When people are insulated and isolated in their own countries, they appear foolish when they encounter people from the world outside what they think of as “normal.” After I arrived in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates, a bank officer asked if I would like to apply for a credit card or a loan. Perhaps, I said. “I just have a few questions for you,” the newly-installed credit officer from rural India asked me. He appeared a bit unsure and nervous. “I see that you work at a university and are a teacher,” he observed. “What’s your caste?” he asked…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
  2. A common experience for ex-pats.

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    Feeling Like A Space Alien in Turkey
    Bug-eyed fourth-graders looked at me like I was a space alien. “You are not Muslim?” they asked repeatedly. No, I said, I am a Christian. Their eyes grew bigger, their mouths agape. They touched their hands to their faces, saying “Oooooh.” In a country that is more than 95 percent Muslim or secular, I was an anomaly and a curiosity…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
  3. Eliciting double takes after visiting the salon.

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    Cultural Shocks After 'Foreign' Haircuts
    Since my 12-year-old son Alex had such success with his first Turkish haircut (above), a few days later I impulsively decided to get my haircut at a salon near Ipeksarai Mall in Kayseri, the city of nearly a million in central Anatolia where we lived and worked for two years. This wasn’t like the 15-minute haircuts in the states. The barber meticulousl…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
  4. People of different faiths have much to teach each other.

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    What Americans Can Learn from Turkish and Arab Muslims
    Reading my blog reports on life with Muslims in Turkey, my 86-year-old uncle, Dr. A.M. (Mac) Secrest, a retired professor of journalism at the University of North Carolina and North Carolina Central University, wrote that his perceptions of Muslims were changing…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
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    First Impressions of Teaching English At University in Abu Dhabi
    By Lucia Holliday Buie My first day teaching English at a university in Abu Dhabi, UAE was 9/11/11. As an American, this made me nervous, and the day began with a figurative bang. Hailing a taxi to work, I happened to get a Pakistani driver. He told me that on 9/11/01, the Americans did it to themselves. It was the Jews who did it and the ones working at the WTC made sure to take that day off. He offered to send me documents proving this…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
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    Culture Shock: Battling Traffic in Some Countries Gives Me Anxiety
    Americans are very rule-conscious and obedient in their behavior on highways and streets compared to many other nations, especially Italy, the Middle East, India, and Vietnam. Merging traffic, especially when drivers flagrantly disobey rules and seem to flout the law, can be very anxiety-provoking…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
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    Culture Shock: Segregated Lives for Men and Women
    Perhaps the biggest culture shock for me as an American living in Turkey and the United Arab Emirates was the largely segregated lives of men and women, even in the classroom…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
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    Culture Shock: Middle Eastern Men and Women Are Group-oriented Rather Than Individually Oriented
    My wife Lucia observed that a large percentage of her female students in Turkey and the United Arab Emirates — perhaps a third — had little interest in full-time jobs after they graduated, but instead hoped to marry and have children shortly after they earned their college degrees. In the UAE, the number of females in my classes aspiring primarily to an MRS degree soon after college graduation…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie

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    Culture Shock: ‘Downton Abbey’ Illustrates Similarities to Lives of Gulf Aristocrats Today. So Does 'The Help'
    Watching the “Downton Abbey” television series, seeing the movie in 2019, and attending the Downton Abbey exhibition in New York City, I was, surprisingly, reminded of the lives of my wealthiest and best-connected Arab students in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates. They live like royalty…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
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    Culture Shocks & Ethical Dilemmas
    In December 2021 I spoke to the Ethical Humanist Society of the NC Triangle, meeting in Chapel Hill and online via Zoom, on the topic of “Culture Shocks and Ethical Dilemmas” while living and working abroad, or in your own country. They were a great audience and asked good questions. I’ve posted the Powerpoint talking points below, as I didn’t have time to cover everything in my talk…
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    4 years ago · Jim Buie
  11. I mentioned in the lecture above that the culture shock in adjusting to Alamance County, NC was in some ways as great as living overseas. Click.

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